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ONE GOOD WAY TO HELP OTHERS AVOID DISCOURAGEMENT: BE THEIR CHEERLEADER

 

The intersection between  impossible and possible
Photo: Geralt
 

Few things in this world are more powerful than a positive push. A smile. A word of optimism and hope. A ‘you can do it’ when things are tough. — Richard M. DeVos

Last week’s post was about avoiding discouragement in ourselves by learning to be the first one to cheer ourselves on, especially since we can’t count on others to praise our every effort.

However, it is equally important to supply much needed encouragement to others, even if they don’t return the favor.

While most of us are giving and generous on an ongoing basis, what I’m talking about here is cultivating in one’s self a consistent generosity of spirit toward others that goes beyond heartfelt compliments or obvious acts of kindness, such as volunteer work or periodic charitable donations.

Just as people need food every day of the year, not just on Thanksgiving Day, they also need words of encouragement on a daily basis.

There are so many interesting traits and talents people display on a daily basis that we often take such an ‘embarrassment of riches’ for granted. Stepping back and taking a fresh look at those around us, we can come away with a newfound appreciation for their personalities and abilities.

People do amazing things everyday. They might:

  • Ace a driving test for the first time
  • Plan a great meal on a tight budget
  • Reorganize the layout of an office for greater efficiency
  • Handle a difficult conversation with diplomacy and tact
  • Banish a monster from under a frightened child’s bed

Taking a cue from how cheerleaders deliver their upbeat message, we can develop the habit of looking for, and acknowledging, these daily triumphs on a regular basis. In the process of doing so, we create a repetitive pattern that multiplies the positive effect we have on others.

If we couple this with ways to exaggerate our appreciation, a colorful ‘thank you’ card, or some freshly picked, fragrant flowers, we also create a mini ritual moment. Through these well placed words and gestures, we help to reinforce in others their own faith in themselves.

And, it is faith in ourselves that is often at the intersection between what we view as possible for us to accomplish, and what we view as impossible for us accomplish.

Please leave your thoughts on this topic in the Comments section below.

In the meantime,

Bestest to all,

Cynthia Dalton signature